This post was originally written for https://savannagrams.wordpress.com by my fellow blogger Savanna. The post resonated with me as I’m at the start of my journey to plan my wedding and it was refreshing to read something so positive about the feeling when it’s all over. With her kind permission, I’d like to share it with you below.
You guys! I’M MARRIED! And after 2 weeks of honeymoon bliss and getting our married life routines down I feel like I can finally relax a bit to let you all know how our big day went (which was perfectly, by the way). And if your wedding day is creeping up on you too then here’s some advice from a 2 week post-wedding wifey: It’s all going to be ok!
I’m not sure if there is anyone else in the world that is more of an organized control freak than I am and I somehow managed to pull off planning an entire wedding without crying or ripping anyone’s heads off.
But I do want to touch on a few things about our wedding. And hopefully some of this is helpful for my future bride friends as well!
- The small details don’t matter (SERIOUSLY!): During the wedding planning process I heard this line probably 500 more times than I really cared to. As I debated over whether the white tablecloths would clash with the off-white chair covers people told me that I was silly for stressing out over these details and instead of laughing with them I cursed at them in my head for making a mockery of my entire wedding (I was a little emotional and overdramatic at times). But really, when it came down to it, all of my guests (including me) were too busy socializing and enjoying ourselves to notice the little things that got screwed up. Some of the chairs were missing chair covers. Some of my flowers were falling off of the flower wall I built. The seating chart looked like a tornado had ran through it. But I can tell you that it was the most beautiful wedding (in my totally unbiased opinion) and our guests are still raving about it. So here I am… Being that fly in your ear telling you once again that the small details don’t matter!
- Splurge on your photographer and definitely consider hiring a videographer! Of course you’ll always have the memories of this super special day but it’s always nice to see photos and videos of what was going on. Sometimes the photographers/videographers might also catch something that you missed or were too busy to notice. And when you talk about how beautiful your day was you’ll want some beautiful photos to show off as well. We spent a little bit more than we originally wanted to on our wedding photos but it is sooo worth it!! We haven’t even gotten all of our photos back yet but I was blown away when I saw some of the sneak peeks our photographer gave us. As for videographers, just do it. I’ve already watched mine 1,001 times and I’ve cried almost every time. It was such an emotional day filled with all of our loved ones and I’m so glad we captured it on video to show everyone and to re-watch for the years to come. (P.S. I’ll be posting that video in the near future as well so keep an eye out!).
- Make sure your maid of honor is highly skilled in organization, aggressively instructing your guests and wedding party, and talking you down from whatever situation it is that is getting in the way of you enjoying your day. Basically make sure she has all the qualities of a mom. Although I only limited myself to one bridezilla moment on my wedding day, I probably would not have survived without my best friend by my side. The role of a maid of honor is so important and if you don’t have their 100% support then it’s easy for your wedding day to get chaotic. So here’s a quick shout-out to my main lady, McKell, for always making sure I had what I needed and being part of the reason why I was able to keep my stress levels down and just enjoy the day. I LOVE LOVE LOVE YOU!
- Lastly, enjoy your brand new husband and cherish every single second of your wedding day. It’s easy to get caught up in all of the flowers and cakes and to forget that at the end of the day all that matters is your new marriage. Very rarely do all of your family and friends come together to just celebrate you guys as a couple. And if that’s not enough to make your heart explode then I don’t know what will.
So, there you go. Now that I’m married I’m kind of sad that the wedding hoopla is over because I really did enjoy planning one of the most important days of our life together. But then I remember that I get to wake up next to the most amazing human being every single morning and that takes the [wedding] cake any day.
So to my future bride friends… Have so much fun during this exciting time in your life. I promise it really will be one of the best days of your life.
P.S. Shout- out to our amazing wedding photographer, Cassandra Oldenburg, with Narrowleaf Photography. You can check out more of her work here.
P.P.S. Shout-out to our amazing videographers, Matt and Dana, with We Do Wedding Videography. You can check out our video as well as more of their work here.